Dear Wendy Updates: “Parent Trap” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Parent Trap” whose live-in boyfriend’s children were spending the summer with them and getting on her last nerve. “I feel like I have no space, all my stuff is moved around, no food is ever in the fridge and worst of all, all they want to do is play with me! I mean it’s great that they love me and accept me in their lives and all but I’m starting to resent them,” she wrote. She said it was starting to affect her relationship with her boyfriend, that he questioned her ability to have a child of her own one day, and that she was even considering breaking up with him because of the kids. So, did she break up with him? Did they figure out a way to make time for their relationship while caring for the kids full-time? Find out all after the jump.

Hi, Wendy. I read the column and I appreciate you taking the time to write to me. I have talked to my boyfriend about these problems and we discussed that I wasn’t treating him fairly either. The problem was the lack of communication on both ends and how I was relying on him to take care of everything. He said he never felt like I wasn’t the type of person to have kids, just that this isn’t the time for me right now. Also, he actually broke down and cried, telling me that he’s sad they’re growing up so fast and sooner or later they won’t want to be a part of his life and he cherishes these moments that they want to spend with him. I couldn’t be unhappy with that; I guess I just needed to talk to him about it. We worked something out during a vacation week for the both of us (w/no kids) that hopefully will be the way we live from now on. I am so happy that he understood and didn’t hate me for my feelings. He says I am just as important to him as his children are and he wants all of us to be happy — and we will find a way to make that work. Thanks again.

Thanks for the update! Best of luck to you, your boyfriend, and the whole family.

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