I am a 28-year old Libra and he is a 25-year-old Taurus. He hunted me down after months of crushing and I finally caved. We’ve been on and off most of the last year and a half. I know that he is a good person, but I am positive that he is immature and inexperienced (I am one of his first sexual partners). I’ve done my best to stay patient (he acts like a teenage boy). He has an amazing power to get under my skin like no one else can. He has his moments of greatness, but when all is said and done, I’m not sure we speak the same language. I speak English, he speaks Cro-Magnon. I truly believe he has what it takes to be great and that we can be great. I wish he would let go of his insecurities and simply grow up. Before you stop me and ask why I put up with his crap… I know. I know, but we keep coming back to each other and I want to make it work. According to our friends he wants to make it work too, but has no idea how. What’s a girl to do? Is our fate written in the stars or is it time to put on my single lady heels and get out there to find some new boys?? –M.
Girl, it’s not going to be an easy road to get things worked out with Mr. Cro-Magnon. As it goes, Libra and Taurus isn’t the easiest match to begin with. Although Venus rules both your signs and can give you the same sensibility in terms of tastes and pleasures, it isn’t good enough in this case. Plus, as a Libra, you tend to be too patient, as you are sign that can at times fall in love with the idea of partnership more than whom you actually have as the option— and with Saturn, the planet of discipline, going through your first house, the worry here is that you are settling and trying to make a square fit into a round hole. Even though you have pointed out your Taurus man does have moments of greatness, the overall story that comes across is that he is below you and with that attitude, it doesn’t sound too good that he will ever be good enough. No matter how long you give him to progress, he will always be behind you.
Obviously, you must have tried talking to him and explained all that you want and need, and if he is still not hearing it and unable to process it to make it happen, then you have to accept it as is. Taurus is a fixed sign and what you see is often what you are going to get, with not many variations. Of course, even if he weren’t Taurus, you can’t ever expect anyone is going to change to suit your needs. Who they are is whom you have to accept. So, unless, there is part of the story you are not revealing and you actually can say without hesitation that you do care and like him, and actually find his immaturity to be endearing, then there is as chance. Otherwise, realize you do have options.
For instance, if you do plan to roll the dice, you’ll have lots of cosmic help — as in this summer you have the planet of luck in your house of committed relationships, which can make chance meetings in love happen. Also, you have Uranus in that area of your chart too, which indicates that this is your time to try new things, explore new places and take bigger risks when it comes to relationships. Of course, how you want to use this is up to you, as no one, not even the stars, can lead you all the way to what will make you happy.
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