Should Parents Kiss Their Kids On The Lips?
Personally, it feels strange even writing that title. Why wouldn’t parents kiss their kids on the lips? Isn’t that what all parents do? You know, kiss their kids on the lips to show their love? Apparently, some people find the idea of a parent kissing his or her son or daughter on the lips deranged and disgusting. But who? Well, Want My Husband’s Lips for Myself for starters. And really that name says it all doesn’t it? WMHLFM wrote into advice columnist Dear Margo asking if the fact that her husband kissing his daughter on the lips completely freaks her out was weird or not. His daughter (her stepdaughter) is five, and this stepmother of one year, who has kids of her own, says that her husband kissing his daughter on the mouth is “driving me crazy” and “aggravates me to no end.”
The crime, as she describes it, is a “peck,” but, she declares, it belongs on the girl’s cheek, not her lips. “I even explained that you do not kiss on the lips unless you are married,” she waxes. “I have mentioned that I’m totally against the gesture; he said he will do so until the day he dies.” Why so upset, stepmom? According to her, it’s “a sexual gesture and very inappropriate.”
Can I just say, Are you kidding me? A father can’t kiss his 5-year-old on the lips? Because it’s “sexual”? According to whom? According to her, that’s who, someone who makes it clear by her moniker that she’s jealous of the affections that her husband bestows upon his daughter, which, for the record, I think is the real issue here, and the kissing is just her way of expressing it and making her pathology their (imaginary) pathology.
To a degree, Margo agrees with WMHLFM, deeming the activity “creepy.” Although, ultimately, she seems to believe that it’s not inherently “sexual” and to each is own. “Ask yourself why you feel so possessive of his lips and whether it is hard to share his affection,” she rightly suggests.
What do you think?