Dear Wendy Updates: Rebound Guy Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from Rebound Guy, who was always falling for women who had just gotten out of long-term relationships. When he wrote, he was involved with one such woman who kept telling him she wasn’t ready for a relationship. After a year and a half of seeing her off-and-on, he was beginning to wonder if she’d ever be ready. So, did he decide to move on? Did she eventually come around? Has he finally kicked his habit of dating recently broken-up women? Find out after the jump.

A few months ago, I wrote to you about always being the rebound guy. I think you were right (as were a lot of the commenters) in the fact that whether or not I was a rebound guy for this particular girl, she wasn’t right for me because she was still hesitant to jump back into a relationship, and thus I should not wait around for her. I think there was the assumption that I always went after girls straight out of relationships, but that wasn’t really the case. It would be more along the lines of meeting someone, going on a few dates, and then finding out on date two or three that they just got out of a four-year relationship, like, three months ago. But anyway, I stopped contacting the girl-of-topic and haven’t really heard back from her, so have moved on. It didn’t really make much sense to wait around for her to make up her mind.

This decision actually worked out well because soon after, I met someone whom I really click with. We get along great, never run out of things to talk about, like the same things, etc. Then I found out on date four she just ended a five-year relationship four months earlier. *face palm.* BUT, I think it’s going to be okay, because we’re both really into each other and she already told me (on her own free will, I never asked her) that she didn’t feel like this was a rebound thing for her or anything. Whether or not that turns out to be true six months from now, we’ll just have to wait and see. But I suppose every relationship has a follow-up relationship. Whether or not it is a “rebound” depends on how much you are into the other person. Thanks for your words of wisdom and keep up the good work.

Good luck, Rebound Guy! Or, should we call you “follow-up relationship guy”? At any rate, hope this one sticks!

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