Most of us either know Chad “Ochocinco” Johnson as an NFL star or a toe-tapper on “Dancing With The Stars.” But Ochocinco’s most recent role has been as pasha to his very own harem of women on the VH1 reality dating show “Ochocinco: The Ultimate Catch.” The star has caught some flack recently for only choosing two black women on the show from an array of beauties. So Essence.com sat down with him to discuss how some black women feel snubbed that a black man chose women representing other ethnicities to be his dates; his response was respectful but slightly dismissive. “I’ve never heard other races complaining about their men dating outside of their race besides black people,” Ochocinco said. “I hate that we continue to pull that race card.”Ochocinco said he could understand where black women were coming from, although he stood by his decision to choose women based on his own “preference.” And what’s his preference? “Black, White, Chinese, I don’t care what you are,” he said. “If you put a smile on my face, I don’t want much. I want somebody who is fun, has a personality, and can cook and take me to McDonald’s. Keep your nails and your feet done, and we’re good to go.”
Certainly any person is allowed to date who they want. But it’s more complicated than that, as lots of people would like to marry someone of a similar race/ethnicity or religious background — Jews marrying Jews, blacks marrying blacks, Latinos marrying Latinos, etc. — to keep their cultural heritage alive. Clearly, some people are frustrated when the opposite sex dates/marries outside of their race, if that is the goal they personally have in mind.
Anyway, I have no experience in this area so I am going to shut up now. But perhaps you all would like to weigh in? [Essence]