Recently I was at someone’s family party and there were a whole bunch of people I’d never met before. I started chatting about the Twilight books with a woman when she asked me, somewhat accusingly, “You’re not a Christian, right?” Now, I identify as a Christian in the loosest sense of the word. I read liberal, feminist Anne Lamott books, I like Christian teachings about social justice, I used to go to a gay youth group at a Unitarian Church — that sort of thing. What little identification I have with it is more cultural than anything else’ I got the sense that wasn’t the answer she was looking for, though. As tactfully as I could, I said, “I’m probably not the same kind of Christian you are.” She then confirmed that suspicion to me by telling me how she is a true Christian because she lives her life literally from the Bible. She also told me there are a lot of people who think that they are Christians, but they aren’t. I’m guessing she meant me.
Now, like I said, I don’t especially identify as a Christian. But I do resent being told “you’re not Christian enough” or, in this case, “I’m-more-Christian-than-thou.” Who the hell are you to tell me what I am and what I am not? anti-feminists
people who don’t understand what feminism actually is and try to control other people’s definitions of it