To celebrate the publication of our first-ever book, The Frisky 30-Day Breakup Guide, we’re re-running the original series that inspired it, and having writer Maude Standish bravely road test the book’s expanded tasks and tips. So follow along, chart your own progress, and find out everything else you need to know to forget he-who-shall-not-be-named!
Rip The Golden Glaze Off The Relationship
You’re far enough away from the situation now that you’re allowed to go back and reminisce a little. But not about the good times, no matter how much you want to. Write down a short top-five list of times when he was rude, insensitive, or just plain mean. Like when he insulted your intelligence in front of a friend of yours, or that one oh-no-you-didn’t moment when he said something during an argument that you haven’t been able to forget since. You’re angry now, right? Mad. Seething, maybe. Tear up the list and throw it away. Now go outside. Walk or stretch or just stand there for a second and breathe fresh air. Repeat this to yourself: “For every man who would say those things to me, there are many who wouldn’t. When I start my next relationship, it will be with someone who wouldn’t.”