Uh oh, mommy-blogger kerfluffle! The deputy editor of the UK’s Mother and Baby magazine, Kathryn Blundell, has ruffled some feathers after describing breastfeeding as “creepy.” In a recent article in Mother and Baby, Blundell wrote that she bottle-fed her baby because “seeing your teeny, tiny innocent baby latching on to where your lover has been feels, well, a little creepy.”
You know, I actually agree with her.Breastfeeding is always controversial — even on sites like The Frisky, which isn’t even expressly a site for mothers. Our posts about breastfeeding get a crazy number of comments.
It shouldn’t be controversial, though. Feeding a baby wherever, whenever a baby wants should be a given in our society. People need to realize everything isn’t about them all the time; if something makes you uncomfortable — whether it’s gays or a mom breastfeeding her kid — you need to get over it. They have rights, too. Mothers of young children are burdened enough by sleepless nights, carrying a kid around all the time, etc., that asking them to always go some place private to feed their child is unreasonable. (And who wants to breastfeed in a public bathroom anyway? Ew.) God help me for agreeing with Kourtney Kardashian on anything, but if a woman breastfeeding her baby bothers you, then don’t look. I intend to breastfeed my future kids wherever and whenever they want it: the street, the subway, the train, the park, the supermarket, I don’t care.
That is, if I breastfeed at all.
At this point in my life, I’m iffy about breastfeeding. I know it’s good for the baby: it will pass along my immunities, help with bonding, maybe even help me lose the baby weight. But for the past 26 years of my life, my boobs have been about one thing and one thing only: sex. Kathryn Blundell said she bottle-fed her baby because her breasts were so sexual for her; my breasts are a big part of my sex life, too. I still want (and my future husband will still want) a sex life after the baby’s born. The idea that breasts could be interchangeable for babies and lovers is creepy to me. As long as bottle-feeding doesn’t hurt a baby — and I have heard nothing that says it does — shouldn’t it be the mother’s choice? To be sure, saying breastfeeding is “creepy” in a national magazine surely doesn’t help make it easier for moms to feed their babies without getting hassled. Still, I don’t think breastfeeding should be so sacred that we’re not allowed to call it “creepy” and say it’s not for us.
There’s no doubt about it: I do have a bad, bad case of the babies. My boyfriend’s also caught it (though at slightly less of a feverish pitch). We’re constantly texting each other when we see an Asian baby on the street and joking we’re going to kidnap one to bring home with us. Dreaming about having a baby with my boo is fun and it is something I’m itching to do within the next several years. I guess it’s time to get used to the idea of handing my boobs over to breastfeeding — maybe. [BBC]