Dear Wendy Updates: Necklace-Hater Responds

Thanks to reader ACooper’s suggestion, we now have a new feature called “Dear Wendy Updates,” in which people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Trying to be Grateful,” who hated the necklace her boyfriend gave her for Valentine’s Day and didn’t want to wear it instead of her grandmother’s heirloom necklace. We also hear from “Planner,” who had pre-engagement jitters after learning that her boyfriend had retrieved her grandmother’s diamond engagement ring with the intent to propose with it soon. Did he ever end up popping the question? Did she say “yes”? How did “Trying to be Grateful” deal with the necklace situation? Find out all after the jump.

You replied to my question regarding the necklace my boyfriend gave me for Valentine’s Day back in February. I took a lot of consideration from the posters and ended up keeping the necklace. I just couldn’t bring myself to tell him that I didn’t like it. I’ve actually grown fond of it, but here’s the catch: I wear the charm from my grandmother’s necklace on the same chain as his. I explained to him that I would’ve felt off without her necklace, which is what everything came down to in the end. I love them next to each other, since it’s a gift from two of the dearest people in my life. Since the necklace-incident, we’ve even talked about engagement rings. I’m so glad this happened, because I would have gotten a department store engagement ring if I always assumed he knew what kind of jewelry I liked. Thank you to Wendy and all the commenters for putting me in my place!

Great idea to wear the grandmother’s charm on the same chain!

I wrote you wanting advice for the nervousness I was feeling about my impending engagement, and I would say your advice was spot on. The more I thought about the situation, I couldn’t think of a reason why I would ever say no to getting engaged to my boyfriend. I had no desire to turn him down, but I was still really nervous. As time went on, I calmed down a lot. You were right, sometimes you just need to take chances. Even if you’re in law school and realize how god awful and costly divorce battles can be. In the end, it kind of turned out how it did when I was picking a law school. I waited until the very last day and I was nervous and worried for months that I would pick the wrong school for me. Once I finally made the decision, I felt great. In March, I went on a trip with my boyfriend and he proposed while we were walking on the beach! Our wedding is a little over a year away, so I can finish school and the bar exam pre-wedding. I’m really happy and now I know I have to take some chances for love! Thanks so much!

Glad to hear a happy ending. Congrats on the engagement!

If you are someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too (whether you liked my advice or hated it). Email me at {encode=”[email protected]” title=”[email protected]”} with a link to the post where your letter originally ran, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.