To celebrate the publication of our first-ever book, The Frisky 30-Day Breakup Guide, we’re re-running the original series that inspired it, and having writer Maude Standish bravely road test the book’s expanded tasks and tips. So follow along, chart your own progress, and find out everything else you need to know to forget he-who-shall-not-be-named!
Write A Letter to Your Best Friend
Forget e-anything. On actual paper with an actual pen, write a letter to your best friend. Include the nice things you tend to think about her character, thank her for helping you through this stupid breakup thus far, and talk about how much she means to you.
Buy an actual stamp, and put the addressed envelope into an actual mailbox. You’ll be bawling into five separate Kleenexes by the end of this exercise, but you’ll also have a handle on the ingredients for the glue that holds a good relationship together. Gentleness. Trust. Unconditional love. Honesty. Forgiveness. You know now that he wasn’t equipped with the things you need. Why expect less out of your lover than you do a best friend? Sit with that thought for a moment.