To celebrate the publication of our first-ever book, The Frisky 30-Day Breakup Guide, we’re re-running the original series that inspired it, and having writer Maude Standish bravely road test the book’s expanded tasks and tips. So follow along, chart your own progress, and find out everything else you need to know to forget he-who-shall-not-be-named!
Box Up His Crap
Get a box. A shoebox will do for a shorter-term relationship. A ream-of-paper-size box from your office’s supply room will do for a long-term relationship. Now start throwing any relationship-related stuff in it. If you want to burn the Patriots jersey he left at your place, or sell it on eBay, or toss it (with a nice flourish) into a city dumpster, fine. But you can’t do that with everything. A short list of items that must go, after the jump …
- Cutesy pictures of the two of you.
- Ticket stubs from movies you went to together.
- That one dress you wore on your second date that he said you looked beautiful in (that you haven’t worn since).
- Letters. Cards. Notes. Anything he gave you that you saved for posterity.
Now, don’t panic! You don’t have to pitch the box in the trash (unless you want to). Just tape that sucker closed and place it on the very top shelf of your linen closet, give it to your best friend for safekeeping, or lock it in a rental storage space. The point is to get that thing away from you — as far away from your conscious mind as humanly possible. Look around your apartment. What you now have is your stuff. You. And that’s more valuable than any faded ribbon from that one semi-thoughtful birthday present he gave you two years ago.