Up until a few months ago, I thought it was fine and that this guy I’ve been seeing liked me a lot, but it’s clear he doesn’t. I’ve listened to his awful stories about how he suffered child abuse, stuff about his mom, his depression, his asexuality and all this horrible stuff he went through. I think I’ve been very sympathetic and encouraging towards him, but all the while he’s been going to strip clubs and on every dating site he can find, like he’s hoping he’ll find somebody better. I didn’t say anything, but my feelings were hurt.
Then he told me on scale of 1 to 10, I’m a 4.5 to 5.5 and that while he usually dates girls in the 4 to 6 range, he aims for the 6, which I thought was really mean and after that I kind of went psycho and started telling him every thing I’ve been holding in for the last year and a half. I got really mean and awful. I know it wasn’t smart, but I couldn’t help it. Now he won’t even talk to me at all and I go from being really angry to being really depressed and wanting him to pay attention to me again. Anyway, I don’t know if I should just give up on him altogether or if I should try being nice all over again? I’m pretty sure he’s going to tell me he doesn’t want anything to do with me. I’m a Pisces. He’s a Sagittarius. – Torn
Give up altogether. The two main feelings he’s brought out in you are hurt and anger — is that how you really want to live? Seriously, he sounds like the Jesse James of your world, trying to use child abuse as his excuse for behaving poorly. That is just lame. Plus, he wants to dish it, but he can’t take it!
As a Pisces, you are born under the sign of compassion and this can make you a sucker for types like this, as you want to love his victim into being a victor (to quote Danielle of “The Real Housewives of New Jersey,” natch). The fact is, it will never happen, since he’s already laid down such a poor foundation upon which to create a relationship with you — and hello, he has no game anyway. Any dude should know if he wants to get the best out of his lady, he has to treat and make her feel like a 10. Otherwise, who’d be motivated to want to feel like a 6, at best?
Of course, despite the fact that he acted so ungentlemanly, you did care and getting over him won’t be easy. As a Pisces, you are generally super sentimental and the further you move from him the more you might be focusing on the good memories, rather then the bad ones. However, stay focused and you will prevail! Luckily, you are having a good streak now, astrologically speaking, as Jupiter, the planet of luck, is coming onto your house of self-esteem on June 5. So, it’ll help you revive your confidence and get you back in tune with being a 10 by the end of the summer, in September, when Jupiter rolls back around into Pisces. This will give you a super charge of luck, and you will be as good as gold to get your head back fully from this mindf**k and to move ahead to happier times with a better man.
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