Ask The Astrosexologist: “I’m Pregnant, But He’s Torn Between Me And His Ex!”
I’m an Aquarius in a relationship with a Sagittarius. We’ve been together for about six months. He was married before we got together and separated from his wife just before he got with me. He was also my boss (that’s how we met). At the beginning, he was very happy to be with me, spent time with me, told me he loved me, etc. I love him very much.
However, in January he went a bit funny. It turns out his ex wife had been speaking to him, telling him she loved him and that they should be together and this confused him. He didn’t want to hurt her, but he loves me and wanted to be with me. Anyway, I thought we had sorted this out, but recently he has been doing the same thing again, acting different with me, as though I am just a friend, and acting as if he doesn’t want to talk to me or want me around. This is very hard for me to deal with, as I am six months pregnant, and I want to talk to him. I still love him.
I want to know if this is going to keep happening? Is he going to keep running back to his ex? He says he doesn’t love her or want her, it’s me he loves and I want to believe him, I really do. I just find it hard to trust his word, as he has said all this before. What am I supposed to do? I love him too much to just leave him. Can you help? – C.
Straight up, you need to love yourself and your baby enough to set down boundaries! As it goes, you are not getting your needs met and constantly being held at arm’s length with a push/pull effect, leaving him to do what he wants. It sucks and is extremely stressful, not to mention damaging to your self-esteem. Since you are having a baby, that needs to be your priority. Otherwise, getting caught up in his whole drama might mean never having any resolution, and risking your peace of mind and your baby’s.
You met him while he was married, but then he slept with you right away and got you pregnant to boot. This only spells out that this Sagittarius is a crazy cannonball that has no direction. He came to you confused, so he is going to stay with you confused. If he were ever going to make up his mind and stick to it, that way would be a miracle —as so far that has not shown to be his character with you. Plus, as an Aquarius, you do have a tendency to be too forgiving of the one you are with, as that is what separates him from just being a friend to you, giving him more of a benefit of the doubt. However, if this person doesn’t play correctly, it leaves you with the short end of the stick.
He wasn’t resolved with his wife when he got with you and since you are part of this whole escapade he is on, chances are he won’t be getting over her anytime soon and you have to accept this guy is a MESS. It’s nothing personal, but save yourself. Remember, deciding to have a baby is deciding to make that baby your priority, which for now means living as best you can — as in as little drama as possible. So buck up and take the higher road. If he ever gets it together, he’ll have to find you, not the other way around, with you just there waiting for him, because if you give him an inch, he’ll take a mile.
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