5 Tips For Daughters Who Don’t Get Along With Mom
It may not be easy to admit that you don’t have your mom on speed dial, or that maybe your mother is not your favorite person in the whole world. But even daughters who don’t usually get along with the woman who birthed them can find small ways to appreciate her on Mother’s Day. Reach Out
Reach out to your mom with a phone call, e-mail, or old-fashioned letter. Consider sending a small bouquet of flowers, or better yet, a handwritten card. Cards can go a long way to mend one picket at a time in your otherwise broken family fence. Really, a simple call to say “Happy Mother’s Day” is all you need to make if you want to avoid the “You forgot again” or “Is it that hard to pick up the phone?” tirade.
Forget The Past
For one day, forget all of the bad and terrible things she’s ever said or done.
Laugh It Off
Rise above any petty arguments or unloving comments Mom says about your hairstyle, choice of men, job, skirt length, or life choices, and don’t take her advice or nitpicking too seriously. She wants what she thinks is best for you, which won’t always match your list. There’s a reason we don’t live with our moms forever.
Strengthen Family Ties
Discover neutral topics you can discuss with your mom to lessen the chance of your typical arguments. Before seeing your mom on Mother’s Day, think about questions you can ask her about her hobbies, interests, and childhood memories. Spend Mother’s Day trying to get to know your mom as a person.
Keep It Short And Sweet
Even if you don’t get along with your mom, you may still have to attend a family Mother’s Day celebration. Plan your day before going to the event, and announce your plans to leave early because you have to … (insert important event that can only be done that day). It is OK if you simply want half of your day to shop or relax.
Keep in mind that Mother’s Day is only one day, and any effort you make to enjoy your mom’s company will make the day more pleasant for everyone. That bikini wax or day at the spa can wait. As for getting along with your future mother-in-law, you’re on your own.