Questions For Our Mothers: Ami’s Mom
In honor of Mother’s Day, we’re interviewing our moms to find out how their lives changed when we were born and what they learned about love and life as a parent. Today, Ami’s mom.
When I heard we were doing Mother’s Day interviews, I couldn’t wait to interview my mom, Mona. She’s pregnant with me in the picture above. And yup. That’s me as a kid. Cue chorus of oohs and ahhs. It’s a shame you can’t hear Mona answer these questions in her thick Long Island accent, because it’s oh-so charming … especially when she calls me on the phone. On speaker phone, that is. She’s obsessed with it ever since she learned how to use it and refuses to speak on the phone any other way. “Oh, Aim! You’re on speakah phone” is how she begins most phone calls. It’s also too bad that you haven’t had the great pleasure of dining with her. She orders everything “on the side,” à la “When Harry Met Sally,” and sends back three out of every four meals. Sorry, Mom, it’s true! I can almost hear the phone call I’m going to get in five minutes: “Oh, Aim! You’re on speakah phone. Why did you say that?” But seriously, Mona is one of the most colorful characters you’ll ever meet. To know her is to love her. And everyone who meets her loves her. It’s impossible not to. Aside from being a wonderful mother to my younger brother, Adam, and me, she’s also been a surrogate mother to many of her students for more than 30 years. Find out Mona’s thoughts on motherhood, after the jump. Did you always know you wanted to be a mom?
Unfortunately, I did not know too much about what I wanted or myself. I followed what I thought was the correct path at the time — college, marriage, career, and motherhood. I do think, however, in the back of my mind, I always knew I wanted to be a mom!
How was your life different before you had kids?
My life was very different. I was very busy teaching, learning new things about my marriage and myself, and doing lots of traveling. I enjoyed cooking, baking, reading, Jazzercise, knitting, painting, socializing, and playing with my two Siberian Huskies. I was evolving as a person and preparing for my next step … YOU!
What were your fears about becoming a mother?
Fears about becoming a mother? Me? Fears? Never. I literally read EVERY parenting and psychology book out there throughout my entire pregnancy. I wanted to do every single thing right. My biggest fear was, “Will I be good enough?”
What did you think when you found out you were pregnant with me?
I felt special. I was elated. I felt like I was the only woman in the entire world who ever got pregnant! When I told Dad, he passed out, by the way. Did you know that? It was funny.
Do you have any regrets about how you raised me?
I think I raised you and your brother very liberally and let you “fly” at an early age. I don’t believe in looking back and saying, “What if I did it this way instead?” I did the best I could at the time. I do, however, have some regrets about my amount of “life experience.” I probably would have done some things differently had I known better. You live and you learn.
What’s the best and worst thing about being a mother?
The best thing about being a mother is sharing in the joys and successes. The absolute best thing for me is having adult children who I’m so proud of. Ami and Adam … thank you! The worst thing about being a mother is helping your children through the tough times and trying to keep your own sanity!
What advice would you give me if I ever decide to be a mother?
If you ever decide to become a mother, the first bit of advice I would give to you would be to never read a single parenting book! Seriously, just follow your heart and your instincts, and you’ll be the best mom ever.