The estranged wife of NBA basketball player Dwyane Wade is suing his current girlfriend, actress Gabrielle Union, for emotional distress on behalf of the Wades’ sons. Siohvaughn Wade claims Gabrielle engaged in sexual foreplay with Dwyane in front of their 8-year-old and 2-year-old sons. Her $50,000 lawsuit, which was filed in Chicago, also claims that Dwyane formally introduced Gabrielle to their sons as his “girlfriend” and said “that is why your mom and I are going to divorce.” The suit says the oldest child has been treated for anxiety and stress, suffers from headaches, has developed nervous habits, and is so anxious his hair is balding in spots. In addition, the suit claims that Dwyane and Gabrielle have put the children in dangerous situations.
This suit sounds like the legal way of effing with the other woman. And I think Siohvaughn and Dwyane are to blame for how their sons are dealing with the end of their marriage. [Chicago Sun-Times]Gabrielle has been in the public eye for years, and never have I heard of her doing anything untoward or sexually inappropriate. So I think the “sexual foreplay” could have been something as simple as a kiss. The lawsuit even says that the 8-year-old boy calls Gabrielle’s house “the house where the woman kissing daddy lives.”
I, as a child of divorce, also suspect that the anxiety and stress that one of the boys is experiencing is a result of his parents divorcing and not simply because his father has a girlfriend. It’s hard for children to deal with divorce, especially when they’re old enough to understand what’s happening but too young to process the reason(s). I think Siohvaughn is using her children as weapons against Dwyane and Gabrielle, and I’ve never understood how some mothers and fathers could do this. It’s not a far stretch to connect the oldest son’s hair loss and nervousness with the fact that he not only has to deal with the divorce, but also has to meet with a court-appointed child representative to discuss his father. He asked the representative “to put his father in jail…” so he wouldn’t have to return to Gabrielle’s home, according to the suit. That statement doesn’t sound like something a child would say unless he heard it from someone else, like maybe Siohvaughn.
This isn’t to say that I think Siohvaughn is the only one to blame. It’s quite possible that Dwyane and Gabrielle forced their relationship on his sons too soon. I was about 8 or 9 when I became uncomfortable with my dad and stepmother’s relationship, even though they’d been married for about 5 years and I’d had a so-so relationship with my stepmother. And at the time, I decided that I couldn’t emotionally handle spending weekends at my dad’s home, so I stopped going. My mom supported my decision without ever saying an unfavorable remark about my stepmother or father, but she also made sure that I spoke with my dad regularly, and my dad spent time with me outside his home. Maybe this is what Dwyane should have done. He could have seen his sons alone and told Gabrielle to fall back a little. It’s hard for children to see a woman who is essentially replacing their mother as their father’s wife and at the same time hear their mother’s disparaging remarks about the woman and their father.
The fact that Siohvaughn’s lawsuit is only demanding $50,000, which seems like chump change for an NBA baller’s wife, suggests to me that she really wants to be a nuisance to Gabrielle. Her desire to make a statement really isn’t in the best interest of her sons. Instead, she should try to shield the boys from as much of the divorce proceedings as possible. And Dwyane should find a place where his sons can visit without having to be around Gabrielle or at least only see her in small doses.