At long last, John Edwards‘ mistress has spoken! Rielle Hunter gave her first-ever interview to Lisa DePaulo at GQ, jam-packed with quotes she’s gonna regret: about when they first met (“There was an instant and odd connection that we both felt.”), her weird ideas on gender roles (“I could not emasculate him!”), and even about their daughter, Quinn (“She was conceived in love. She is a love child.”) And, of course, the sex tape.
Hoo boy. The biggest shocker? Rielle Hunter is about 10 times more hippy-dippy-doodle than you can even imagine. She says things like, “We’re all slaves to our unconscious” and “The force field of our love overrode any issues that would arise from my belief systems.” And her business card reads “RIELLE HUNTER. BEING IS FREE.”
Yeah, seriously. After the jump, let’s wade through the muck and sludge that is Rielle Hunter’s interview with GQ:You know, as completely batty as Hunter comes off in her interview, there’s a part of her that I can empathize with. (Hear me out on this.) When she explained to GQ how she felt about Edwards, it was surprisingly humanizing:
“I had this thing in my head like a lot of women, where you want your man to stand up on a cliff and scream, ‘I LOVE HER.’ You know, the knight in shining armor. And that wasn’t what was going on. … I’m not a great mistress. I’m not a mistress by nature. It’s a role that I took on because I fell in love with him. And that was the role that was available to me.”
I, too, have been in the “other woman” position and I know Hunter is telling the truth that the “role” of mistress was not something she sought. It’s something she got stuck with because of Edwards’ inability to make up his mind. John Edwards is a grown-ass man. Are we really supposed to believe his wife has her claws so deeply in him, so to speak, that he can’t make decisions on his own? If John Edwards couldn’t end his marriage with Elizabeth to be with Rielle, then that is his weakness, his problem. John Edwards is a weak, weak man — not because he cheated, but because he waffled and wavered and let the infidelity drag on.
But what I can’t abide? Rielle Hunter talking smack about Elizabeth (from whom John is now separated). It’s a sign of Rielle’s dippiness that she isn’t angry at John for treating her poorly, like not admitting paternity of their daughter until Quinn was almost 2 years old.
But it’s a sign of her cruelty that Rielle has said some pretty nasty things about Elizabeth. Here are some actual Rielle Hunter quotes:
- “[Elizabeth] was in denial about a lot of facts. And I say she was in denial because, you know, their relationship has been dysfunctional and toxic and awful for many, many years. And she was aware of, um, problems and chose to ignore them.”
- “It was a toxic relationship. And very abusive. It’s interesting, though, that he allowed himself to be abused. You know, he’s no victim. But I think it had to do with having the guilt of the double life — it allowed him to accept the abuse.”
- “He doesn’t lie to me. He discloses everything to me. And he has no fear of lying to me. Part of the problem—it’s the fear of what’s gonna happen that causes the lie. And the hiding. The fear of the repercussions. And, well, first of all, infidelity doesn’t happen in healthy marriages. The break in the marriage happens before the infidelity. And that break happened, you know, two and a half decades before I got there. So the home was wrecked already. I was not the Home Wrecker.”
- “I have such compassion for her. I really do. I mean, especially when you have terminal cancer … I watched my father die of cancer. It’s heart-wrenching to me. But it’s also sad to me, her unwillingness to take responsibility for her part in the marriage. And her unwillingness to face the truth. We’re all slaves to our unconscious, but she really believes that it’s everyone else’s fault. And that’s heart-wrenching to me, too.”
- “I believe what happened in his marriage is, he could not go to his wife and say, ‘We have an issue.’ Because he would be pummeled. So he had a huge fear. Most of his mistakes or errors in judgment were because of his fear of the wrath of Elizabeth. He’s allowed himself to be pushed into a lot of things that he wouldn’t normally do because of Elizabeth’s story line. And the spin that she wants to put out there. He was emasculated. And you know, the wrath of Elizabeth is a mighty wrath.”
Ugh. Way to blame the victim!
All I can say is, Barack Obama must be hellllla happy he didn’t pick Edwards for vice president. [GQ]