I am a Gemini and my boyfriend is a Virgo. We’ve been dating for about a year and a half, but we seem to butt heads ALL the time, over the smallest and the most ridiculous things that get completely blown out of proportion. We just cannot seem to avoid arguing. I always feel the need to talk and express how I feel and he is very reserved. We just can’t seem to get along for more than a few weeks at a time.
The problem is that when we aren’t arguing, I am extremely, extremely happy and I care about him a lot. However, all the arguing has gotten to be too much. I like that we are so different and I am optimistic, but he is overly logical about too many things. We both bring out the absolute worst and the best in each other, but is it possible for us to find some way to get along? Or is this a sign that we shouldn’t be together? – Annoyed and Confused
As it goes, Gemini and Virgo square each other, which means a natural tension is always going to be there. Plus, as these are both signs ruled by Mercury, which is the communication planet, you both are going to be stubborn about your points of view. As a Gemini, you are more playful and whimsical; meanwhile Virgo is more analytical and likes to stick to hard facts.
While there is a way you can work together, it’ll take effort and both of you will have to take turns in the driver’s seat and accept what the other is like without expecting they are going to change. There might be a small part of both of you that likes the verbal sparring, as you both have strong Aries influences in your chart that indicate a love of battle. For you, it’s your Mars, which is the planet of aggression. For him, it’s his moon, which is the ruler of his emotions. Since you both have these placements, it is inevitable that you are going to fight and play devil’s advocate with each other — but it also means that forceful energy is also something that brings out a sexual quality and chances are the make-up sex is a phenomenal.
In total, your charts do have enough commonalities to make you compatible, but yes, it’s going to make you clash. In reality, the complaints you’ve made are all evident in your charts — but it’ll be up to you to take the good with the bad and see that not all battles have to be fought. Have a bit more of a sense of humor with each other and don’t let your egos get involved in every disagreement. As a Gemini you do like weighing your options, but also like someone that can stand up to you — so think hard, as what you find in this relationship is what you’ll get, so choose your battles to win this war.
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