Ask The Astrosexologist: My Gemini BF’s OCD Ways Are Driving Me Crazy!
I’m a Libra and he’s a Gemini. In some ways we are alike and others we are very different. We both have some anxiety, a tendency to be quite anal and organized, but I try not to let it get to me, whereas he has anxiety about it. For example, if his room isn’t clean, suddenly it will get to him and he MUST organize it. Right NOW. Things like that.
I’d like to think, however, that we’re both fun-loving and outgoing, and he just has anxiety about little things. If he loses something, he has to find it IMMEDIATELY. If he can’t find it, he replaces it immediately. I am tired of dumping out all of my stuff in my purse, duffel bag, etc., to find what he will inevitably find in five minutes with some basic searching. My deal: how do I handle him (sometimes) making a mountain out of dung?! Will he ever change? I hate picking up his anxiety and then five minutes later, he’s over it and I’m all stressed out! – Attempting to Chill
Sorry to tell you this, but Geminis are, by nature, a bit OCD and they need their little quirks to function in their own special way. As a Libra, the sign of balance, you inevitably wind up harmonizing with and calming down your partner on some level. That usually means getting sucked into their drama and diffusing their energy — but you should also remember you are the sign of peace. You need to realize this is how he is and not let it affect you.
Be entertained by his strange behavior, rather than feeling you have to cater to it. Sit back and let him have his freak out, since you know in a few minutes he will find his way back to sanity and then get on with things. This tactic is the only way it might be endearing for you. Otherwise, trying to be the yin to his wacky yang will disrupt your peace of mind and your eye will wander for more relaxing shores. After all, you can’t change people.
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