Sometimes it seems like you’re screwed on Valentine’s Day, whether you have a significant other or not. If you’re in a relationship, Hallmark et al. are breathing down your coupled throat, putting on the subliminal pressure to do something meaningful and romantic with your special someone. If you’re single, everyone is expecting you to break down and hide in a corner screaming, “Why me?!” while shaking your fists to the heavens. Can’t we just cross the damn thing off the calendar? No. Not an option.
Now let’s say, hypothetically, for the sake of this discussion, that you are an awesome single chick who begrudgingly acknowledges that V-Day is not going away. How do you live through it? The first thing you do is rejoice in the fact that you don’t have to try to figure out what new Apple gadget to get your boyfriend since you are morally opposed to buying him something called an iPad. Even better, you feel relieved knowing that you don’t have to pretend to be excited when he gets you a box of Whitman’s chocolates from Walgreens and forgets a card. See … isn’t this great? And do you know what is even greater? The fact that you are a strong, independent, happy woman who feels totally content and at peace with being single. Phew. Glad you finally got to that place. So, instead of throwing a pity party for one (that’s so high school), think about this: Valentine’s Day is a day to reflect upon and celebrate the love in your life. The truth is that lots of different people, places, and things fulfill our love quota — not just a significant other. Love is everywhere. (I know it sounds cheesy, but it’s true.) Rather than whine about the love you don’t have, celebrate and expand the love you do have. After the jump, some ideas for surviving Valentine’s Day … single-style.Party Down. OK, just because you’re single on V-Day does not mean you should have an un-fun day. I know what’s fun: parties! Why not throw one? Invite over other single friends, eat cookie dough, dance, drink beer, order pizza, play board games, or watch rom-coms and laugh at how stupid they are. Or even hit the town for the night. I don’t care. Just have some fun.
Self-Love. So what if the only person you have to spend Valentine’s Day with is me, myself, and I? That’s your favorite person to spend time with anyway, right? Take yourself on a date: cook a gourmet meal, drink a bottle of wine, read a book, and er … go to bed with yourself. It’s not called V-Day for nothing. Good times guaranteed for all. And by “all,” I mean “you.” After all, you can’t love anyone else until you love yourself, right?
Brotherly Love. You know who loves you a lot and couldn’t imagine life without you? Your family and close friends. Let them know how much you appreciate them by spending some quality time with them. Go to dinner or catch a movie with people who love you unconditionally. It will be low-maintenance and lots of fun.
Indulge. Since you love and respect yourself, like, a lot, take some time to show yourself how much you care about yourself by giving a gift … to yourself. Take a yoga class, treat yourself to a mani-pedi, get a haircut, or splurge for a massage. Pick up a sinful dessert or buy that new dress you’ve been eying in the window. Stop waiting until you have an SO to buy you bad chocolates and go get yourself something you actually want.
Spread the Love. One way to express love is through acts of kindness. Forget all the gifts, chocolates, and general holiday BS and volunteer your time. Organize a Haiti fundraiser or feed homeless people at a local shelter. You will forget about your pity party really quickly when you reach out to the world around you and understand how fortunate you really are. It will make you feel grateful for all that you have. Spread the love and you will feel the love.
Have An Adventure. When in doubt, have an adventure. Maybe this means hopping on a plane to traverse the Australian outback or signing up for a pole-dancing class. Whatever constitutes an “adventure” for you is fair game. The point is to try something new, break out of your comfort zone, and have a different experience. Adventures teach us what we’re really made of and give us the opportunity to discover new things about ourselves. Maybe you’ll even meet new people or get yourself a new hobby along the way. That wouldn’t suck.
Get Inspired. Love is inspiration and inspiration is love, so do something that inspires you. Go see some live music, hit up a new exhibit at a museum, go see your favorite sports team play, go to the movies, or take a walk along the beach. Do something that inspires your love of life.
How about you? What are your tips for having a fabulous single Valentine’s Day? Share your suggestions in the comments.