How To Get Him To Propose

Cathy Torkelson, 34, had a good job as a legal consultant, a loving boyfriend and supportive friends and family. She was a good girlfriend in what appeared to be a solid year-and-a-half-long relationship. Yet, internally, Cathy was anxious, irritable, moody and unable to concentrate. The cause? A persistent question: why hasn’t he proposed?

Torkelson’s questioning became “all-consuming,” and eventually turned a normally independent, rational woman into a nervous wreck.“I got in a depressive state where all I wanted to do was crawl into a ball and cry,” she explains. Her boyfriend was committed, attentive and she knew he loved her, but because he hadn’t asked her to marry him, she doubted her self-worth. “It made me feel like there had to be something wrong with me.”

Sounds crazy, right? But despite all the gender-role changes over the past decades, men asking women for their hand in marriage is a tradition that has remained strong. And for a woman who wants her man to get down on one knee, waiting for that one little question is stressful and nerve-wracking. But can waiting for a proposal actually drive you crazy? Read more

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