Ask The Astrosexologist: My Leo Boss-Turned-Boyfriend Always Has To Have The Upper Hand

I’m a Sagittarius (12/13/89), and I have been seeing a Leo (7/23/76) for the past month. Before anything romantic happened between us, we worked together for about a year. He’s a lawyer and I was his secretary — and that situation, plus the age difference, has always made him feel as though he has the upper hand in the relationship. Since we have started seeing each other romantically, he has started to be a bit of an a-hole. He likes to play up the whole jerk thing, can be selfish, and he constantly needs his ego stroked. Prior to hooking up, the two of us would always joke around with each other. We liked to tease each other and laugh a lot, and we still do that now, but it’s really hard to get him to be serious! Any advice on how to handle this would be greatly appreciated! — Fed Up

After reading this, it seems unclear if this is a real relationship, because it seems like a booty call by the way he’s treating it. Seriously, he sounds like a Grade A jackass that’s getting his kicks by hooking up with his hot secretary and now doesn’t know what to do about it. So, he acts like a child, hoping you will just go away or be an unconditional slave to his needs. Either or, looks bad!

Leo is the sign of romance and it’s pretty easy to tell when they’re in love — they are relentless and act like princes that ride in on horses to rescue damsels, both in distress and not. You never have to guess where you stand with a Leo in love. Since he is avoiding any seriousness by being a “goofball,” it seems he’s trying to stop your relationship from progressing, keeping your status as a booty call status for as long as possible. To put more effort into this relationship will only drain you. As a Sagittarius, you are the sign of idealism, so you don’t always see the harsh reality in love, as you like to see only the good in the person you care about, negating the bad.

Luckily, this optimism will follow you everywhere, so when it comes to dumping this guy swiftly, chances are you won’t have trouble falling for someone new — and considering he has set the bar so low, it should make it even easier. Plus, Mars is in retrograde in Leo right now, which means it’s a good time to pull a surprise upper cut to his ego and teach him a thing or two about messing with you. Sagittarius is the sign of truth and teaching, so it’s the perfect time to school him by quitting that bitch and having the last laugh!

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