This is my first holiday season as an old married and my husband and I are planning to spend Thanksgiving at his father’s place where his brother and his wife and two small kids will join us. My father-in-law lives here in Manhattan, just a mile up the road from us, so, luckily, we won’t have to do any commuting. Our Christmas trip will be decidedly more involved. We’ll be visiting my parents who live in Germany (it’ll be my husband’s first trip there!). In the last 20 years, I’ve spent every Christmas but one in Germany. I figured this year, since we’re newlyweds and still ingratiating ourselves in each other’s families, it was important to spend the holidays with our respective parents. Next year, though, I hope to begin some traditions of our own. I’d love to spend Christmas in New York finally. Maybe my Jewish husband and I can even enjoy some Chinese food for dinner. So, how about you? Where will you spend the holidays this year? And, if you’re in a relationship, how do you decide whose family to visit?