I know that this might sound like something outdated from a ladymag—but sometimes when getting dressed for a date, I purposefully wear what I call my “conversation piece,” a necklace that belonged to my grandmother. It’s a twisted gold chain that holds an ancient Roman coin pendant. I love this necklace and wear it a lot anyhow, but I’ve also come to find that an unusually high number of guys ask me about it. As the pattern developed, grandma’s necklace has become pretty useful in assessing and creating dialogues with guys when I’m on a date. (If, that is, the subject comes up. I’m not saying I wear this piece of jewelry to fill up pauses in the conversation, like, “Look, look at my necklace! Want to hear about it?”)For starters, if my date asks, “What’s the story behind that?” I know where he’s looking. Of course, this can be precisely what I want, but it can also cue me in to see if he’s blatantly staring at my boobs. If it’s the first or second date, and he reaches across to hold it to “get a better look,” I know he’s committed a douche-move that doesn’t respect my personal space.
On the other hand, inquiring as to the origins of what looks like an accessory with history has sometimes brought me closer to a guy. Physically, obviously, if I move in to show him. But it also creates a connection—he seems interested in learning more about my past and the important people in it. Potential increase in guy’s cuteness.
Have you found that men respond to certain pieces of jewelry like this?
Don’t have a locket from your great-grandmother or a vintage trinket from mom’s youth? You could totally fake it with something that looks nostalgic, like this pocket watch necklace, which, ahem, good old grandpa gave to you. [$28, Urban Outfitters]