Many men have some very disturbed ideas about sex and biology. For instance, a good friend of mine spent years believing that girls pee out their butts; he thought this until he was age 21. He was a certified EMT.
The subtler sex myths, though, may be the most damaging ones. They can ruin relationships and sex lives, even if they seem extremely obvious. Here’s a look at a few of the more common sex myths that a large number of guys tend to believe.
Myth: Women don’t look at porn. It never occurs to men that women engage their sexuality through pornography. Hell, it doesn’t occur to many women, because women often use literary erotica or more subtle pictures of half-naked dudes to accomplish what men use pornography for. This is a disservice to gender relations, folks–if we’re going to get along truly as equals, we need to accept that as a species, we’re all ridiculously horny.
Myth: Orgasms are the only way to judge good sex. Male biology is such that we can’t contemplate how sex could possibly be enjoyable without an orgasm. It’s the objective for us. If we can’t bring a woman to orgasm during sex, we’ll automatically assume that the sex was bad, and this view is pretty well enforced in pop culture.
The thing is, many women don’t have orgasms and are perfectly satisfied with the sex that they’re having. If you try to tell a guy this, though, he’ll assume that you’re just being polite. It’s this kind of willful ignorance that led us to doubt that the female orgasm existed in the first place.
Myth: There’s a right sex “schedule.” Many guys will get uptight about the relationship they’re in when the sex slows down after that frantic first supercharged couple of months. They’ll worry that they should be having a ton more sex. In reality, people have different schedules and sexual needs, and there’s nothing uncommon about having sex once a week, or even less frequently for some couples. Schedules can be changed, too, but many men get convinced that anything less than 20 times a week is a sexual Great Depression. A couple might turn out to be sexually incompatible, but usually that’s got a lot more to do with biology and bedroom wants than too much or too little sex.
Myth: Longer is better. Many men judge sex like you’d judge a game of Jenga–the longer the tower is standing, the better the game. They’ll try to push sex regularly past the hour mark, and get frustrated or disappointed if they’re unable to have ridiculous sex that approaches tantric levels of longevity.
The reality is that longer sex doesn’t necessarily equal better sex. It usually just results in a lot of sore body parts, and less time for everything else in life. That’s not to say that faster is better, but just that time shouldn’t really be a consideration at all in sex. If your guy keeps a stopwatch on the nightstand, tell him that it’s not some kind of backward race, and you’re not Secretariat the racehorse.
Notice any other sex myths that guys believe? Post in the comments section below.