Separate Beds = Happy Life?
I must confess I suffer serious anxiety when faced with the prospect of sharing a bed with a gentleman. Don’t get me wrong; everything that happens before and after the actual sleeping part is fun. Even the occasional cuddle can be gratifying. But I am a light sleeper, meaning that if the dude snores, chances are I’m not sleeping a wink. Same thing if he talks, over-cuddles, tosses and turns, kicks, hogs the blankets, likes the room too cold, likes the room too hot; the list goes on … Conversely, I may not always be the best bedfellow myself, due to the fact that my body heats up when I sleep—which has earned me nicknames like “Little Radiator” and “Lava Rock.” I want my man to sweat me, not sweat on me. Is it really necessary to go through all of this beddy time discord?British sleep specialist Dr. Neil Stanley would say, “Hell no!” In fact, he would go so far as to call bed-sharing bad for your health. Seriously, he recommends sleeping apart for the good of the relationship. A study showed that, on average, 50 percent of couples who shared a bed experienced more sleep disturbances—not to mention the fights they get into over sleeping styles. Worse? Poor sleep is linked to depression, heart disease, strokes, lung disorders, traffic accidents, and divorce. Do you hear that people? Bed sharing is not a good idea! Let’s not forget that before Victorian times couples never even shared beds. The phenomenon came about when people started moving into overcrowded cities. OK, I’m sold! Let’s hope my next boyfriend doesn’t think it’s weird when I tell him that I can’t sleep next to him because it’s bad for our health. [BBC News]