Is Oral Sex The New Bar Mitzvah Present? We Think Not.
Most lucky boys get a few hundred bucks and a nice wristwatch for their bar mitzvah presents. But if a Jewish magazine article out of Brandeis University is to be believed, 13-year-old girls are gifting their male Hebrew school classmates with a bar mitzvah blowjob.
In the July 2009 issue of 614 magazine from the Hadassah-Brandeis Institute, Shulamit Reinharz writes:
“…a woman in her seventies began sharing her concern with me about the custom in her granddaughter’s prep school; Jewish girls were giving Jewish boys blowjobs as bar mitzvah presents! Presumably because they’ve already got everything else.”
We have only one thing to say about this: oy gevalt. To her credit, Reinharz did her due diligence on young Jewish teens having oral sex—but she didn’t substantiate the rumors about bar mitzvah blowjobs. A male student at Brandeis told Reinharz that in high school he remembers oral sex was considered a “middle-school thing,” but he didn’t confirm the bar mitzvah blowjob trend, either. Furthermore, several Frisky staffers are Jewish, and we’ve never heard of this before.
That’s not to say 13-year-olds aren’t going down on each other. A 2005 study by NBC and People of 1,000 teens found that only four percent of 13- and 14-year-olds have had oral sex. Only 58 percent of 13- to 14-year-olds even knew what the correct definition of oral sex!
If bar mitzvah blowjobs are anything like the “blowjobs are the new good night kiss” trend or teen rainbow parties trend (when a group of girls each paints her lips a different color of lipstick and then goes down on a boy) — the latter was roundly criticized as a sensationalized and overblown phenomenon — then they’re mostly BS.
But let us know if we’re mistaken. Have you heard about the blowjob bar mitzvah “trend”?