Did Michelle Obama Settle When She Married Barack?

Michelle Obama has been our first lady for just over seven months, and she’s already been attributed with making a positive contribution to the U.S. fashion industry, along with advocating on behalf of military families and more. Now, Jenee Desmond-Harris writes on The Root that Michelle is a role model for single women.

Holding out for the perfect man, someone who is intellectual but not nerdy—cool but not arrogant—impeccably dressed but not effeminate—not a player but with just the right amount of edge—is useless. Smart can go with a little nerdy. Artsy can be accompanied by off-beat. Ambitious and focused may mean less than a social butterfly. Yes, there was that one guy in law school who was easily 6’5’’, a Rhodes Scholar and a rapper, with a baby face to top things off. I’m not saying it’s impossible, but please.

Desmond-Harris writes that we should be like Michelle and overlook some negative traits in order to find a mate. Sure, Barack Obama had a fair amount going for him, but he had a funny name and big ears and he smokes/smoked, which Michelle was able to look past. Desmond-Harris makes it sound as though Michelle settled for Barack, which I doubt was the case. Don’t you tend not to notice these little imperfections when you’re into a guy in the first place?