If I had a dime for every time I’ve heard a woman moan about how she thought things were going great with a guy only for him to disappear the minute she slept with him, well, drinks would be on me this weekend. Luckily, the guys over at Truth Merchants are dealin’ their “daily dose of reality” and spelling it out so I don’t have to. After the jump, their top three reasons a guy splits after he hits.
#3 – The Sex Was Atrocious
No one really believes he or she’s bad in bed, but if you have a track record of one-night stands and not many return customers, there’s probably a good chance the guys who sampled the goods didn’t think they were all that great. As the Truth Merchant says: “If we’re willing to walk away from someone who’s proven they are willing to give it up…well then…yeah, it must have been some kind of awful.” How can you be sure you suck in the sack? Guys are pretty effusive when it comes to sex — they want to butter you up in order to get you back, so if you aren’t hearing compliments, it might be time to work on your technique.
#2 – It’s All We Wanted
You may be sweet, funny, smart, interesting, and one hell of a karaoke-singer, but if a guy’s after sex and sex only, he doesn’t give a rat’s ass about your girlfriend potential. Guys like the chase and when the chase is all they’re interested in, there’s no incentive to stick around after they’ve caught their prey. It’s like the fishermen who throw their catch back into the river before heading home — they can’t bother with the cleaning and cooking when all they really enjoy is the fishing.
And the number 1 reason a guy disappears after sex:
#1 – YOU changed
“All too often that ‘crush’ or ‘infatuation’ or ‘mild liking’ of a guy goes into high gear after some good sex.” Truth Merchant writes. Sound familiar? Of course, there’s a biological reason we want to be close to someone after having sex with him, but that doesn’t mean we have to turn into clingy, needy messes. It’s important to remember that sex isn’t a passport to relationship-ville. If you know you’re the kind of woman who doesn’t want a sexual relationship with someone you don’t have a committed relationship with, then keep it in your pants until you’ve established what you are to each other. And for God’s sake, have some self-respect and quit chasing after a guy who ignores you after you hook up. Why would you want to be with someone who so clearly doesn’t want to be with you?