A Southeast Asian guy IMed me with about how I (a white woman) am dating a half-Asian guy and how I should write “something about white girls who date Asian boys…[it’s a] fascinating topic.” He told me white women dating Asian men was “extremely rare, mostly because of prevailing stereotypes about Asian men,” such as “passivity” and Asian men being “desexualized” and therefore “overlooked by white girls.” He then suggested that my boyfriend, like other Asian men who date white girls, must be really “doting.” Presumably because he’s so grateful to be with me. My boyfriend is the second half-Asian guy I’ve dated and some of my friends have commented how I seem to have an “Asian guy thing.” I don’t know whether to be offended by that or not. On it’s face, it sounds offensive to me because it’s assuming I don’t like him as much for the person he is as the way that he looks, or that there people of different races are different from each other and I favor one more. I’ve asked myself before if I am fetishizing my boyfriend’s race and I’ve come to the conclusion that no, I am not, but I am very attracted to the way he looks in part because his face looks “different” from mine.
Kate Gosselin has talked about how she has “a thing for Asian men,” calling Jon Gosselin’s eyes “the most gorgeous eyes I’ve ever seen.” Not that I give a damn what Kate Gosselin does, but
Ben Affleck talked to People about the fuss over his then relationship with Jennifer Lopez, saying it “has to do with race and class, the fact that I am white and she is Puerto Rican … That’s what’s underneath, although nobody says it, because it’s not politically correct.”