10 Ways Not To Say “I Love You”

On Monday night’s “Gossip Girl” season finale, Chuck told Blair he loves her. While the gesture was nice, the words missed the mark. He didn’t say, “I love you.” He said, “I love you, too.”

Adding the “too” is fine every once in a while, but it’s definitely not cool the first time someone says it. The “too” takes the emphasis off how they feel about you, and it reinforces how you feel about them. Keep reading for other no-nos when you’re saying those three words.

  1. Don’t omit the “I” and say “Love you.”
  2. Don’t type “i luv u” or “luv ya” in a text or email message. A few extra letters aren’t that much extra work.
  3. Don’t look at something else when you say it.
  4. Don’t say “I love you” to get something you want.
  5. Don’t expect the other person to say it back.
  6. Don’t say “Ditto.”
  7. Don’t say it for the first time right after having sex.
  8. Don’t spell it out in food or rose petals.
  9. Don’t use it as a way to end an argument.
  10. Don’t say it in a baby voice.