The New York Times answers an interesting question. What do you do when a nice guy does something not-so-nice? Perfectly nice guys with terrible manners are all too common these days. Writes a victim:
“A nice guy, who I thought was interested in me, stood me up for dinner. I waited at the restaurant like a sad loser, but he never called. When I next saw him, he apologized and asked if I would have dinner with him. I refused. He told me he was going to make a reservation at the same place and wait for me there, hoping I might change my mind. I’d like to see him. What should I do? – D.T.“
“Social Q”‘s Philip Galanes advises she should feel free to give the guy a second chance, but warns it might get tiresome dealing with a person who fluctuates between rude and gentlemanly. “The ending is often in the beginning,” he writes. “Over time, you may find yourself the recipient of as many slights as long-stemmed roses.”
As someone who is apt to give second chances in my quest for love, this really spoke to me. What would your advice be to D.T.?