When Women Bully, We Hurt Each Other

A survey by the Workplace Bullying Institute found that most bullies are men — but 40 percent are women. While male bullies attack men and women, female bullies tend to go after their own kind, targeting other women more than 70 percent of the time.

My guess is that some women who want to feel powerful feel the need to dominate others, and lording over other women can be easier than commanding men. With the economy the way it is, people are trying to get ahead, and some are taking not-so-nice measures to get there. In case you’re not sure whether someone is bullying you, tactics can include being glared at in a hostile manner, being given the silent treatment, and having others fail to deny false rumors about you. Sounds like pretty catty behavior, doesn’t it? One reason researchers believe women resort to bullying is because many women don’t know how to lead any other way, so they attack and embarrass one another. Sadly, even when women resort to these tactics, they don’t get ahead. Gender stereotyping research suggests that no matter how women lead, they are perceived as “never just right,” and sadly women must work twice as hard as men to achieve the same recognition and to prove they can lead.

How do men bully? How do women bully? Do men and women perceive the same actions as bullying? [NY Times]