Cutesy Names And Secret Phrases Bond Couples
We get really annoyed when we hear couples speaking lovey-dovey language and dropping inside jokes. But these annoying couple-isms could be signs of a strong, satisfying relationship. According to one study, couples who use pet names and code phrases experienced more satisfaction in their relationship. Speaking a coded language or baby talking signifies that you and your man are close and care enough to create a private, mini world. And even if folks don’t want to hear it, using pet names for each other also let’s everyone around you know that the two of you are exclusive and committed to each other. The inside lingo can also serve as a fast-forward button. There’s no need to rehash your day with your crazy boss because your partner knows what “the usual” means, and should know how to remedy your foul mood.
Studies have shown that couples who have a five-to-one ratio of positive to negative communication have a higher chance of remaining happy. “Using nicknames and made-up language is an easy way to inject positive communication into everyday life,” says Jamie Turndorf, Ph.D., a relationship therapist in New York City. Also, an inside joke can relieve the tension of an argument.
It’s no coincidence new couples nickname each other after sweet foods because sweets are seen as a treat, something to look forward to. As the relationship progresses, the inside language and nicknames will reflect more shared experiences. The jokes and pet names will earmark meaningful memories — kind of like tracking your relationship through your special language. Of course, the pet name has to be one you and your guy agree is favorable. So calling your man “Chunks” because he got sick on a roller coaster probably won’t bring you any closer. But even if saccharin sweet nicknames aren’t your thing, saying “I love you” and coming up with as many catchphrases as possible will help strengthen the connection you feel with your partner. But beware if he stops using his pet name for you because it signals a lack of interest and intimacy. [MSNBC]