Hi, I’m Dr. V. I’m not a real doctor, I just play one on the Internet. What I am is a lady, a lady who is a fool for love! And I love nothing more than sex. My deepest desires have happily led me on many adventures in the sack, but they have also, sadly, made me one of my gyno’s most valuable players. But I’ve lived to tell the tale(s)! So, from time to time, I will dish the dirt on everything from getting freaky to getting freaked out. Now, let’s get this party started…
This week, I received a letter from a lady who can’t figure out what her man wants her to do around his booty if she can’t give him the finger. Well, gorgeous, forget the junk in his trunk, diamonds are a girl’s best friend! I’m going to talk about a little trick that’ll make him feel like a million bucks, without having to withdraw anything from the bank in his butt. As for the rest of you, keep those letters coming! To send me a question or suggest a topic for a future “Doin’ It With Dr. V,” email me!
“Sometimes, when I give him a BJ, he moves my hand towards his anus. So, I take this as a cue that he wants me to massage his prostate. But when I do, he seems to get upset, and resists me and my finger. The first time we were together, he actually asked me to stop, but has not asked me to stop since. Why on earth would he move my hand towards his bum if he didn’t want one?”
Non-verbal cues can be so hard to read! You made a good, educated guess by adding a finger. (Seriously, who doesn’t enjoy a little reach around?!) Oh well, everyone likes what they like. Based on what you’ve told me, I’m picking up what he’s putting down. And boy, do I have a move for you! I’m going to let you in on a secret that’ll make you a rich woman.
Every man has a “million dollar spot.” Between their balls and their booty there’s a diamond — a diamond-shaped soft spot of skin right near the pleasure center prostate. As semen makes its way from the prostate through the penis, the swimmers lane opens up. You can feel the ejaculate as it makes its way through that money shot spot, also known as the perineum. But that technical term is hardly sexy enough to describe the mind-blowing bonus of pulling his handle while you hit the jackpot.
Taoists consider the perineum to be a key chakra, called Hui Yin. When men ejaculate, they believe it weakens their physical health. So frequently, when they have a moment of ecstasy, they injaculate by preventing the semen from coming out of the body by stopping it at the perineum with an orgasmic finger lock. Warning: forming a blockade =can get a little tricky because it’s potentially damaging to the nerves in the area. For example, bicyclists are especially at risk of perineal injury from their seats, which can lead to impotence. So beware, this special Yin can have an extra Yang.
Now, there’s no harm in a little rub down. For those of us who do want to see some semen, you can rock his boat simply by stroking. When he looks like he’s about to blow his wad, then it’s time to go for the diamond! Right before he orgasms is when you’ll be able to touch his tube through the perineum. You should be able to feel a difference and so will he. Massage it. Stroke it. Work it, girl! Don’t be afraid to use some lube, when necessary. BY caressing, using one or two fingers, you’ll intensify his orgasm in three blissful ways:
1. You’re showing the prostate — and that hot pocket of nerve endings — some love.
2. Your touch is rollin’ all the way down the semen highway that runs to the sensitive tip of his penis and also to the muscle between the butt and balls.
3. Plus, by blocking a bit with your stroke, you’re adding more sensation because you’re keeping the blood in his penis.
Clearly, sometimes it’s the little things in life that can make all the difference. So, hot stuff, go show him that when it comes to lavishing your man with lovin’, you’re a million dollar spot gal.