Dating Drama: What’s The Best Time For Sexytime?

Wake me up at the crack of dawn looking for sex, and I’m likely to ignore you, or yell at you — and not in a dominatrix type of way. To put it mildly, I’m not a morning person — or, rather, I’m up for “morning sex,” if 11:59 a.m. counts as “morning.” But others have different ideas on the matter, so I asked my friends what time of the day equals sexytime for them.Photographer The Lovely Brenda says she’ll do it anytime, but the morning is her favorite: “I love to wake up next to Aaron and his raging c***, as the warm sunlight pours through the wooden blinds. To climb on top, feel him between my legs, and stick my nose between his beard, ear, and pillow, so that I can smell and hear him in my left ear drives me wild. It leaves me with thoughts that I can jerk off to for the rest of the day when I’m alone at home, working at my computer while he’s away.”

Searah Deysach, owner of Chicago sex toy store Early to Bed, prefers the middle of the day. “Sex in the late afternoon is always my first choice. In the morning I just need to get out of the house as soon as possible and at night I’m often too tired. In the afternoon you don’t have to worry about waking the neighbors, and you don’t have to turn on any lights but can still see all you need and want to. Plus, I always get a burst of energy after, so it’s good to have time to make use of that.”

Graphic designer Sinclair likes to get it on at night. “Getting off is such a nightcap for me, for some reason. Something about the ritual of getting undressed and getting in bed anyway makes it a perfect excuse. And I sleep better after an orgasm or two.”

In Alison Tyler’s erotica anthology Afternoon Delight, each story focuses on a specific time of day when characters get busy, making for round the clock screwing. Taylor says that “every hour is worth trying,” but afternoons are her favorite time for f***ing. “They revamp my whole attitude for the day. I’m also partial to fucking right before we go out so that we have a little bit of a secret nobody else knows. That is, until we tell them what put the flush on my cheeks and the spark in Sam’s eyes.”

I don’t have a preference for morning, afternoon, or night sex. In recent years, it’s been about taking what I can get, rather than being picky about when it happens. Sex before work can feel rushed. Afternoons are out for me — unless you count text flirting and dropping naughty hints via email. But on weekends I like lounging in bed for as long as possible. Some weekday nights I’ll get a second wind — if there’s a good enough reason.

More often than not, the best sex isn’t planned — it’s spontaneous. When do you think is the best time for sexytime?