Dan and Serena, decided to get back together on last week’s episode of “Gossip Girl.” But Lonely Boy and S were in for a surprise when they found out that they are…RELATED. Sort of. Their parents had a secret love-child many, many years ago and the twosome share a half-brother. EEK! Sure, their love runs deeper than Chuck Bass’ pockets, but this is an obvious reason to break up with someone, right? Because as Serena said, “it’s a little too hillbilly.” (And you know they don’t stand for that on Park Ave.) Instead, these two decided to stay together, for now, and make the best out of a redneck situation.
This does bring up an interesting point. No matter how deep in love you may be, isn’t there a point in some relationships where it’s time to breakup? Couples stay together out of convenience and comfort, but deep down you may know it’s just not working between the two of you. And if being related in some sick twisted scenario isn’t a reason enough to throw in the towel, here are five reasons to breakup, after the jump.1. Cheating: I think there is some truth behind the saying, “Once a cheater always a cheater.” Whether it’s emotional or physical, infidelity indicates that there is unhappiness in some part of the relationship. You can blame it on the alcohol, you can blame it on the lack of attention you are getting from your partner, but what may start out as innocent flirting and a glass of wine, can lead down a path of no return. People who cheat are looking for something that they aren’t getting at home.
2. Lying: Someone once told me, if he lies about the small stuff, he’ll lie about the big stuff. And it’s totally true. If your man can’t tell you about a boys night out because he’s scared you will overreact or he insists he’s quit smoking even though he comes home reeking of Parliament Lights every single night, he’s definitely not going to tell you anything that may affect the future of your relationship. Forget trying to spare my feelings, honesty is so crucial. Because once the trust is gone, it’s almost impossible to get back.
3. Finances: Is your man the bread winner in the relationship and supporting you? Or he is sponging off you and looks like he’s in no rush to get a job? In this economy, you can’t afford to stay with someone that doesn’t have motivation to get their finances in order and drag you down in the process. A lot of couples stay together because they live together. It’s easier to produce half your rent payment than the entire thing. But just because it’s easy doesn’t make it right. If money matters are the only reason you are staying together, it’s time to look for a new roommate.
4. Different Goals: Do you want to get married and he doesn’t? Does he wants kids and you’ve got a 1pm tube-tying appointment? If you are with someone you could potentially see spending the rest of your life with, it’s important to address these long-term goals. People don’t change, so you have to learn to accept them for who they are or get out before it’s too late.
5. Think You Can Do Better: There was always this thing in the back of my head nagging me during my last relationship — it was a loud voice telling me I could do better than him. On paper he was great: he was financial secure and owned his own home. But, at a certain point, I wasn’t really attracted to him in that way anymore. It may sound totally vain, but I thought I could do better in the looks department. Plus I always thought there was someone else out there I was supposed to be with. So if you’re preoccupied thinking that you can do better, you probably can. Or if you think this guy isn’t your soulmate, but you’re just staying with him because he brings so many awesome qualities to the table, you are totally fooling yourself. See what else is out there and stop living with regrets.