Why I Cheated

There’s no sex like beginning-of-a-relationship sex. The anticipation. The exploring. The grabbing your new lover as soon as they walk in the door, throwing them onto the kitchen table and banging their brains out with the fervor of a Greek god and the enthusiasm of Rush Limbaugh on an anti-Hillary tirade after a three day coke binge. (Apologies if your lover’s face is replaced by Rush’s chubby mug next time you’re going at it … ). Inevitably, what was once fresh and unfamiliar can become boring or lackluster. And that magic can only occasionally be recaptured with your significant other through the joy of make-up sex. But some people don’t want to have to depend on an argument over whether or not it was their turn to do the dishes in order to get their rocks off.

Actually, make that lots of people. Cheaters, we call them. According to Infedelityfacts.com (the fact that the website exists is a statement in itself) 57% of men and 54% of women admit to having cheated in a relationship at some point.

Dave Carder, author of Torn Asunder Workbook: Recovering From an Extramarital Affair, said that infidelity generally falls into two distinct categories. “There are predators who are out looking all the time,” he said. But it is the second group that is the most typical. “The other kind of adultery happens to people who are not looking, but they just get swept off their feet,” he says. “There is a lot of shame, remorse, guilt, problems in the marriage. Those people are a very different group of people than the first group.”

Infidelity is nothing new. If Adam and Eve had had more options they’d probably have cheated on each other. These days it’s much easier to reach for that forbidden fruit, and everybody does it for their own reasons.

Want to hear their confessions? Read the rest of this article at YourTango.com.