“My boyfriend wants to start swinging. He says it has been something he’s wanted to do for a long time. It has nothing to do with being bored with our sex life, but he feels it could add a new dimension to the way we have sex and love each other. I trust him and I feel that it’s great he can be open about his sexual fantasies with me, but I don’t want to do it. I’m a Capricorn; he’s an Aquarius. I think with diseases out there, it sounds unsafe. He won’t do it without me, but I know he’ll be upset if I didn’t say yes. How can we both be happy?” – At A StandstillAquarians are all about progressive thinking and trying new and eccentric ways of doing the same old same old. Capricorns are generally traditionalists and want things to stay the same. As astrological neighbors, you couldn’t get more opposite if you tried. While he is going to try to get you to open up, you will want to restrain him — which is explains why you’re in this situation. However, a fair compromise for both of your signs — which both thrive on knowledge — is to do some research before you make up your mind. For example, most swinging circles require you get a full exam and get tested for STD’s — which you would want anyway. So, rest assured, if you want someone clean, you can ask for the proof before you go for it.
Also, talking to your man about why you don’t want to and why he does needs to be explored more. You never know what you will uncover as you go in deeper. Plus, finding more about what swinging entails will open you up or make him not want to — and at the very least, it’ll seem as if you put in some effort. Your honey will appreciate that you cared enough to look in, rather than shutting down and saying no. Plus, as a couple, you two can really make this a joint effort. There is more to swinging that just meeting others to screw with, and you may be surprised at what you find. It’s a whole subculture that is worth learning about. Perhaps going to a swingers club or meeting some first, to talk to them about that world would be a better way to assess your decision on the matter. You never know what may happen, with more info; you might just swing your mind to a yes!
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