In The 21st Century, What’s Considered Cheating?

Ever since David Duchovny checked into sex rehab, the internets have been abuzz about infidelity. And, not surprisingly, when it comes to sex, men and women have different takes on what constitutes cheating in the 21st century. According to Details, masturbation is “the new infidelity.” Over at the Atlantic, watching pornography may be tantamount to committing adultery. So, what’s cheating and what isn’t? Without a doubt, technology has changed our relationship to sex in ways we couldn’t have conceived of a century ago. In the new millennium, sex is everywhere, and when it comes to sexual desire, if you can type it into Google, you can probably find it. If you find yourself in a relationship and you’re not getting your needs met, some may find themselves looking outside of the relationship to get what they need. More often than not, technology is taking people there, sexually — whether it’s instant messaging or having a Second Life affair.

When it comes to sex, there are no hard-and-fast rules. What works for some won’t work for others. If your boyfriend’s been spending too much time online with Jenna Jameson, should you feel threatened? Not necessarily. After all, you’re the real deal, and she’s just a bunch of pixels. Maybe in your mind the idea of your boyfriend masturbating is equivalent to him cheating on you — albeit with his right hand. If that’s true for you, that’s cool — if that’s what works for both of you. Whatever your rule book says, the fact of the matter is that communication is key, and the way to make it work is by talking about it. As long as you and your significant other are on the same playing field, it’s game on. So, what do you think is cheating — and what isn’t?