Should I be worried that I think about Daniel Craig every time I have sex with my boyfriend? — Boning For Bond, via email
For the most part, fantasies are a healthy part of a sexual relationship. Letting images filter into your mind during sex is natural, and feeling anxiety about them only makes sex less enjoyable. Fantasies can be worrisome when they’re obsessive, or focus on one person. Thinking only of Daniel Craig or an ex when you have sex could signal a bigger problem with you or your relationship.
Remember this: sex should be something you SHARE with your boyfriend. Spend more time with your eyes open, so you realize that you’ve got your very own Daniel Craig on top of you.
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A Note On Playing It Safe: The Frisky thinks safe sex is smart sex – so please practice it in the way that’s right for your relationship.