A Hug Or Cuddle Doesn’t Always Mean It’s Time For Sex

Relationships expert Dr. Pam Spurr writes in The Times (U.K.) that one of the secrets to a lasting relationship is touching without sex, i.e., hugs and cuddling. But men have been discouraged from a young age, around 9 or 10, not to ask for hugs, so they find intimacy difficult and think their girl cuddling with them means she’s in the mood for sex. Basically, it seems like you have to retrain them to realize that hugs are just nice by themselves sometimes. If you have forgotten how to hug, here are some instructions for the “Lover Hug”: “Extend your arms toward him and hold them around his neck and shoulders. Lean as close as possible and press your torso against his. In situations of extreme intimacy, interlocking your leg in his is appropriate. Avoid holding arms below his shoulders and/or embracing strongly and tensely.” [The Times, U.K. and wikiHow]