“The guy I’m dating is seriously under-endowed. Is this a total deal-breaker?” — Dick-appointed, via email
Have you had sex already? If you have, then you know the answer better than I do. Just ask yourself this: Was it good?
When women experience orgasms during sex, it usually has nothing to do with how far in a penis goes or how wide. Most women’s orgasms are clitoral, and are achieved when pressure from the man’s pelvic bone rubs against her. The G-spot (which needs to be stimulated in order for a vaginal orgasm to be achieved) doesn’t exist in every woman, but those who do have it can reach it with their finger. I don’t know when the last time you measured your finger was (I measure mine all the time), but it’s not that long. Get my drift?
Whether or not a guy is good in bed or not has nothing to do with size. As my brother grossly told me during an argument in which I told him he probably had a small penis, ‘It’s not the size of the pencil, it’s what you write with it.” As a writer, I have to agree.
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A Note On Playing It Safe: The Frisky thinks safe sex is smart sex – so please practice it in the way that’s right for your relationship.