Debate This: How Did Sex And The City Make You FEEL?

Like you could ever forget this, but Sex and the City THE MOVIE opens tomorrow. Every damn newspaper article and newscaster and magazine — literally EVERYONE — is acting like women consider the show the greatest thing since tampon applicators, that it enriched their lives in ways they never thought possible, and that they will literally be tearing down the doors to see it this weekend. That last part might be true, as I cannot find a ticket to save my life, but I really am suspicious of this notion that women’s lives improved because of some TV show about a bunch of rich women with seemingly endless hours in their day to enjoy brunch. So I decided to ask the ladies how they REALLY felt about the show. Their thoughts were mixed. But not a single one of them was fall-all-over-themselves in love with the show.The Good
“You know what? I don’t look at the show and think to myself, ‘Oh that’s New York City with its cosmos (gross drink) and Manolos (inaffordable shoes).’ I think of the time when Carrie fled to Paris with the Russian and I was living in a fifth floor walk up in Paris, drunk in bed, watching the bootleg finale in bed with my roommate, sobbing over being single and missing my ex who lived (and did not necessarily miss me) in New York City. Sex and the City sure didn’t change my life, but New York did and for that, will I see the movie when it comes out? F**k yeah I will.” — Veronique

“I did not hate it. I enjoyed it in that I could relate to it. I said that to my mother once, and her face cringed and she said ‘I hope you don’t relate too much.’ For example, in episodes like when Carrie is feeling suffocated by Aiden when he first moves in, I felt a little less bitchy about feeling the same way. Especially since I was the first of my friends to make that move — I didn’t have many peers who could relate. (Big mistake, by the way. Huge.)” –Andrea

“Before ever seeing SATC, and before moving to The City, I fully thought I would hate the show, and turned it on just to confirm my prejudice. I thought it would be all about these materialistic, shallow, cheesy women who were nothing like myself or my friends. I grudgingly had to admit to liking it. Then I lived in the city for almost seven years, and was like each of the four women in differing proportions, and I had friends who were like them, and I grew to love the fifth main character, the city. Now I’ve moved and am missing the city and those women friends like crazy, so it’s almost a guaranteed choke-up every time I watch the show.” — Colleen

“Before I moved to New York I used the show as a model for what my life should be like in the Big Apple. Once I moved here and started my career as a writer (just like Carrie) the show lost out to reality and I tuned out. Me in a pair of Manolos? I’d have to dabble in prostitution to afford those.” — Lindsay

The Meh
SATC taught me that it’s totally acceptable to wear completely mismatched outfits. When I have days that I look like I got dressed in the dark, I just tell myself that I’m channeling my inner Carrie Bradshaw.” — Kate

“I have a complex, love-hate relationship with SATC, a show largely about complex and love-hate relationships. When SATC started and into my early working years in Manhattan, I found the unrealistic nature of Carrie’s lifestyle frustrating and insulting. I resented the show and even moreso, its incredibly religious following for playing into and embracing what I viewed as something of a farce. As the women on the show—and I—matured over the years, however, I found the stories more relatable and have come to appreciate the serious show it became much more than I was able to appreciate the extravagant comedy it began as.” — Carolyn

“I realize this is kind of sad now, but at the time, I really wanted to have Carrie’s fabulous career as a freelance sex writer. It seemed so easy—she gossiped with her girlfriends, then wrote about what they talked about! Cut to today, where I live in New York and I actually do write a sex column based on the sexual things I talk about with my girlfriends. I certainly don’t consider myself a ‘Carrie Bradshaw,’ (my footwear is mainly Nine West, my dresses are H&M) but it does give me a good feeling to know that you can make things happen if you put your mind to it. Though maybe I should have had loftier goals, now that I think about it.” — Gillian

The Ugly
“Overrated, irritating, but occasionally amusing. Responsible for an influx of young idiots into Manhattan chasing an impossible life.” — Katie

“Sex and the City made me want to change my sex, literally. Those were the kind of superficial, inane girls I spent my life avoiding; now they were in my f**king living room!! The worst part was, that show marked the downfall of Patricia Field. When she worked with drag queens she was super cool. But once she started dressing real vaginas, she lost all sense of style.” — Raven

“I hate that women think the way the characters on SATC talk about sex is so empowering. I mean, all women talk about and have sex, I don’t need some retarded Samantha character to make me feel okay about that.” — Erin

We say: I was a big fan of the show, especially when I was in college living in crunchy granola Santa Cruz, dreaming of moving to New York when I graduated. I probably, during those impressionable days, idealized Carrie and the life she was living, which I quickly realized wasn’t real AT ALL. After that, the show lost a little bit of its luster. It was still funny, but it also was more annoying. Carrie was self-absorbed, I realized, but maybe that was the most realistic thing about the show anyway. Even still, I’m excited to see the movie. And, as we all know, I have no taste, so duh, of course I was and am, in general, a SATC fan. But I absolutely despise the notion of anyone saying, “I’m a Charlotte!”

Catherine says that during college all of her friends would get together every week to watch the new episodes and in that way it brought women together like no other show had. She also says all this bitching about the show not being real is kind of silly, because who said it was supposed to be real? It’s entertainment, a TV show. “No one asks why Iron Man doesn’t seem more real.”