“I hate giving blow jobs, but my boyfriend loves them. How can we compromise?” — Not Into Head, via email
Sssssshhh!!! Are there any boys around you right now?? Did anybody hear you?? I hope for your sake there aren’t, because if that sentiment got around, you might as well have a scarlet letter on your shirt.
Lemme clue you in to something: EVERY MAN LOVES BLOW JOBS. Your boyfriend is not lying. So you know what that means? You+blowjobs=new best friends.
I don’t mean to sound harsh (well, sometimes I do), but stop being selfish. No girl is ever like “OMG OMG it’s blowjob time!! Yaaaayyyy!!”, but we realize that it’s something that gets our guy off. And that’s what should turn YOU on.
The only compromise I can tell you is that if your man is going down on you, then you should go down on him. Good sex (both oral and intercourse) should be a matter of give and take. That’s the best advice my grandma ever gave me.
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A Note On Playing It Safe: The Frisky thinks safe sex is smart sex – so please practice it in the way that’s right for your relationship.