Weight Loss Wears Relationships Thin

I once covered a national fat acceptance convention for the old Jane magazine. As I sat in a room full of men who were the spouses of big beautiful women, they all had one unanimous lament: why doesn’t my wife think she’s sexy, especially when I, her husband, do? These guys would tell their special ladies that they were hot, but just by the mere fact that they had to constantly reinforce their wives insecurities made the men feel like they were wrong for loving them. Their taste was insulted by the very object of their affection. Now a new study has shown that dieting really affects both people in a relationship. Judy Paisley, an Associate Professor of Nutrition at Ryerson University in Toronto, examined 20 couples in which one of each pair was actively trying to lose weight. She discovered that while dieting may make you thin, it also puts your relationship on thin ice. Partners can feel rejected for a variety of reasons when their other half goes on a diet and sometimes will even sneakily try to sabotage their efforts. Her research, recently published in the Journal of Nutrition Education and Behavior, discussed the frustrations associated with having a mate trying to get skinny — from not wanting to eat either, to having a fear that the new slim spouse will walk out on the relationship. Isn’t it ironic since we think we’re dieting to look better for our lovers? Don’t waste away under the public pressure to have the perfect bod, especially if it’s at the expense of your relationship. Be sure you’re giving him something he can feel, whether or not you want that to be some extra winter weight. [Fox News]