â€œFirst dateâ€ – two simple words that can send shivers up anyoneâ€™s spine, much like the words â€œjob interview.â€ When you think about it, there isnâ€™t much of a difference between the two, except one involves cocktails and palpable sexual tension. I have no idea where that old adage â€œYou are what you eatâ€ came from, because the truth is, â€œYou are what you wear.â€ Clothes speak volumes and no matter what, they will always prompt judgments from others. Chances are, the person youâ€™re into isnâ€™t going to notice how perfectly your bangles play into the boho-chic vibe you were going for, or how you expertly coordinated your makeup shades to play up the metallic sheen outlining your top. Guys donâ€™t notice the details, but they do see the overall big picture. Here are some general tips to follow before any date, after the jump…
Dress In What You Like, Not What You Think Heâ€™ll Like: If youâ€™re iffy about what youâ€™re wearing, and spend the whole date wondering if he thinks you look good, that uncertainty will come across, and I know you want to be seen as a self-assured, strong minded woman, not an eager-to please pushover.
Be Confident!: Yes, this is way easier said than done. Even the most confident of women have their off days where nothing seems to work and that overwhelming feeling of ickiness canâ€™t be squashed. When this happens, you got to work a little harder — look yourself in the mirror and say, â€œI am so hot, I could rock a paper sack covered in puke and be the most stunning one in the room.â€ You donâ€™t have to go quite this far, but you get the idea.
Play It Safe: Every girl has her go-to item that always makes her feel smokinâ€™. If youâ€™re feeling anxious before a big date, reach for your lucky item. (Mine is a basic black cami — itâ€™s such a simple item, but I always feel so good about myself when I wear it.) This feel-good piece will make you think back to other successful nights out youâ€™ve had and will instantly give you an added dose of mojo.
Wear Your Clothes, Donâ€™t Let Them Wear You: Make sure nothing is too tight, too loose, too sheer, and so on. If you spend the entire date worrying about an unfortunate wedgie, youâ€™ll seem nervous and uptight, plus, yanking and pulling at yourself isnâ€™t exactly the most seductive of gestures.
Emphasize!: Every gal has her shining feature — maybe itâ€™s your striking brown eyes, youâ€™re ruby red lips, red hair, perfectly tan cheeks, whatever. Enhance your favorite feature!
Be Yourself: Thatâ€™s in both how you act and what you wear. Make sure whatever you wear reflects who you are — donâ€™t try and be the girl you think he wants to be with. Donâ€™t base what you wear on what you think his type is. Heâ€™s going out with you isnâ€™t he? You are his type and thatâ€™s all you need to know!
Below are four totally cute looks currently available on ShopBop.com that we really like as some visual candy/inspiration. Click the images for more details! Just try not to be distracted by the models’ pouty faces (or the sometimes outrageous prices).
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