Ladies, it’s time to take charge of your orgasm! Stop blaming your partner for not making it happen for you during sex. Think of your body as a high-performance vehicle that you’re placing in the hands of a novice driver—your lover—each time you have sex. He wants you to reach the big O, but he needs some help operating your vehicle. You are responsible for guiding your man to becoming an expert driver. Follow these five steps to reach the climactic finish line:

1. Become your vehicle’s expert mechanic. If you don’t know what stimulates you, how can you expect your partner to figure it out? Do some self-discovery—masturbate. First, don’t forget to lubricate your whole vaginal area; wetter is better. Using your fingers, try different tempos and pressure levels for reaching an orgasm. Play with your nipples and see how that adds to your experience. Read a sexy book and fantasize about anything that gets you revved up. Try a vibrator on your clitoris or inside your vagina. Read more on Your Tango…