The Soapbox: On Kathleen Hale & The Thick, Opaque Line Between Standing Up For Yourself And Harassing Your Detractors

The Soapbox: On Kathleen Hale And The Thick, Opaque Line Between Standing Up For Yourself And Harassing Your Detractors

Author Kathleen Hale has been in the middle of a shitstorm this weekend because of an essay she wrote for The Guardian about how she stalked a Goodreads reviewer to try to prove that she — the reviewer — wasn’t who she said she was. Why that matters, no one can really figure out. Hale’s beef was that the reviewer, who goes by the name Blythe Harris on Goodreads and elsewhere but — at least from what Hale could infer — is presenting a false persona online (who’s named Blythe these days, anyway?) posted a pre-release review of Hale’s book No One Else Can Ever Have You that was profanity-laced and described problems with the book that had no apparent correlation to the book itself. Hale obsessed over it, found out that there’s a whole community of online reviewers who bully authors for no apparent reason, and proceeded to dox Harris, both privately, and, ultimately, more publicly through the Guardian essay. Hale went so far as to book a car rental months in advance and showed up on Harris’s doorstep. Keep reading »

The Cast Of “Friends” Plays Dress-Up, And Now I Miss Them

It’s been a big month for “Friends” fans. First, the show celebrated its 20th Anniversary by creating a functioning Central Perk replica in New York City, and then Netflix announced they’ll be adding all 236 episodes to their repertoire. All hail October 2014!

While “Friends” frenzy has been in full swing, a talented DeviantArt artist by the name of Ryan Derrick created some awesome artwork of Monica, Rachel, Phoebe, Chandler, Ross and Joey in various states of dress up, from holiday elves to the casts of popular TV shows like “Grey’s Anatomy” and “The Walking Dead.” And now I miss them…

I Tried It: The Female Condom

I will admit: I’m fascinated by the female condom. For starters, it’s the only female initiated dual-protection (against both pregnancy and STIs) method available. The potential for women all over the world to have agency over our reproduction is amazing. But why, I’ve wondered, is uptake so low? Why don’t any of my friends use it?

There are certainly some aspects of the female condom that are less appealing than other methods. At $7.00 for three, they’re much more expensive than traditional condoms. They’re also a bit less effective than the traditional condom, and there’s the ever pervasive “I don’t like how they feel on my peen” argument for both varieties of condom (although female condom praise-singers are trying to combat that one). The narrative around them in the developed world is often something like “meh.” Female condom manufacturers and advocates have attempted to reframe the discussion to include benefits including enhanced pleasure and ease of use. I’ve joined the call for feminists and health care workers to advocate for their use and access, but the benefits beyond risk reduction feel clumsy and don’t really ring true for me. Can it REALLY stimulate bodies in ways that are worth using them over traditional condoms? Could watching someone insert one possibly be alluring?

So when a friend suggested I shut up and try it, I realized I really should put my birth control where my mouth was. Or something. Keep reading »

Christmas Tree Butt Plug In Paris Deflated By Vandals

See that thing above? Is it A) art, B) a Christmas tree, C) an enormous butt plug or D) all of the above? The answer is D! American Artist Paul McCarthy erected, heh, the sculpture, called “Tree,” in Paris last week, noting that he got the idea for it after noticing that a butt plug sort of looks like a Christmas tree. Okay then. Sadly, this m-ASS-terful work was not appreciated by all, and a rogue group of individuals who clearly hate anal sex decided to take matters into their own hands, The police told the BBC, “An unidentified group of people cut the cables which were holding the artwork, which caused it to collapse.” See the butt plug, I mean “Tree,” in its sad deflated form, after the jump. [BBC] Keep reading »

Sinead O’Connor Slams The AMAs, Says Producers Tried To Get Her To Appear With Pope Francis

  • So, this is interesting: Sinead O’Connor took to her website yesterday to slam the people behind the American Music Awards, saying they contacted her about performing at the show, and then proposed having POPE FRANCIS introduce her, saying the moment would be “important,” “relevant,” and “meaningful.” (Sinead, of course, is well known for having ripped up a picture of Pope John Paul II on “Saturday Night Live” in the early ’90s.) The producers of the show, Dick Clark Productions, never heard back from the Vatican (OBVIOUSLY) and Sinead said she was suddenly cut. “I never heard anything so warped and disrespectful to both the Pope and myself, as well as millions of catholics (As well as my fans, with whom I have some f–king street cred, thanks, and integrity)  in my life,” she wrote. Odd, all around. [Us Weekly]
  • Prince William and Kate Middleton’s second child is due in April 2015, which means he or she will either be a Taurus or an Aries, two of my favorite signs, so good for them. [People]
  • It’s the San Francisco Giants vs. the Kansas City Royals in the upcoming World Series, and some San Francisco radio stations have banned Lorde’s song “Royals” from being played on air ahead of the series. [Us Weekly] Keep reading »

Your Friskyscopes For The Week Of October 20-26, 2014

Your Friskyscopes For The Week Of August 25-31, 2014

Scorpio (October 23-November 21): “The Hunger Games” is on this week. It’s a slaying of the beasts and a cleaning out of your archives. A new awakening is happening and you are the first one aboard. Yes, a cult-like devotion will sweep you towards a new obsession, but with a sunny horizon just over the way to follow, why not just accept the warmth? Do now, analyze later.

Best Lay Day: Thursday, October 23 Keep reading »

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